the hiatus...

yeah yeah yeah i haven't been that active with blogging recently. A lot of things have been going on that took me away from it... For example, I've been dealing with the jolt of reality. What is that jolt of reality? well let me tell you...

First off I started my big girl job... It may just be another step in life that we all go through, but let me tell you, its hard! I knew I'd be working long hours, dealing with things (and people) that don't exactly put a smile on my face, traveling, doing grunt work because I'm the newbie and so on. But I didn't realize how much energy it would suck out of me. At first, I just put 100% of myself into work. But then I got super frustrated I didn't really have a life. Lets face it: waking up, showering, driving to work (stopping for Starbucks duh) working all day then going home, having dinner and crashing isn't exactly a life.

(Starbucks Venti, Coach gloves, JCrew flats & Calven Clien coat)

What did I do about it? At first nothing, then I started going to the gym, making sure I was going out with old friends and visiting other friends (no I'm not counting Starbucks as one of my best friends). We went to the Hunt, the chic horserace of the year. What could be better than booze, boys and friends?

Regardless, I swear I'll be blogging way more often now. I'm in the swing of things at work, and I just really miss blogging. So for now byeeee but you'll hear from me soon.

(Tory Burch bag, Citizens of Humanity Jeans, Sacks black sweater)

until next time... xoxo J

back and better than ever

Hello my loves. I am beyond sorry for the lack of posts, I was swamped with school work, helping friends out and what not. But I'm sitting in the Milan airport now (my flight back to NYC has been delayed for 3 hours)!!! And continuing to type up posts. I have loads of stories and posts to upload. I even kept a journal during my travels in Europe to remember the entertaining bits of the trip. 

Look forward to my posts especially the ones of my travels in Italy, France and Switzerland 

Xoxoxo J

when your heart gets broken.. as told by Erinn

So for everyone who does not know, Erinn is one of my best friends and was my college room mate. We share everything, apparently we even share heartbreak. Here is a little backstory: her boyfriend of two years broke up with her the day before finals started. Needless to say, it was not a pretty sight after that, and she was inconsolable for a bit before things started to pick up. My boy broke up with me, get this, the day before graduation... 

Men have not proved to be gentlemen to either of us yet, but we are still young so who knows whats ahead for us...

Here is Erinn's anecdote for heartbreak.

Guide to Getting Over Being Dumped and Getting Back to Being the Bad Betch You Are

I'm sure many people have been there. You are in a 2 year relationship with your college boyfriend. By this time, you are sitting in your bed on a nightly basis with him in a gross t-shirt and shorts, eating mcdonald's chicken nuggets while you watch each other play the next level on your favorite iphone game. True love. This seems like the life, having already planned what your kid's names will be (okay, they were william and james and they were gonna be toddlers wearing bowties who had a baby bulldog puppy). um...okay yea... well moving on...

Then one day, a fight breaks out between you two and your boyfriend decides he's had it. He wants to "live his own life and find himself", not wanting to have to be attached to anyone anymore (oookay?) And before you know it, you are laying on your roommate/best friend's dorm room floor crying into the carpet that you will never find anyone else better than mcnugget guy and you would rather lay out in the middle of highway to be run over than be alone without him...and you do this for multiple days.

Yes, it sucks. It feels as if your entire world is ruined and that things will never feel okay again. You think your heart has been ripped out and stomped on and all you want to do is watch those sad ASPCA commercials for the rest of your life (*cue arms of angel*) and in thinking about those ASPCA commercials, you now start to believe your new life is going to be in your basement caring for a slew of grimey cats until you are old and ugly and then it doesn't matter anyway.

Follow these steps to help keep you out of that basement with all of those cats. These are the steps I wish I followed sooner.

1) Surround yourself with friends.

Not just anyone, but those friends that will force you to watch stupid movies, stuff your face with dairy queen, and let you get sloppy drunk so you can creepily wink and stalk the super hot bartender at a beach daquiri bar and throw dollar bills into his tip jar like he is a stripper ( Shoutout to brian the bartender, keep doin what you doin!). Also, get in touch with all of those friends that you may have neglected when you were with your boyfriend. No matter what, they will be there for you.

2) Do not put on sweats! No. Do not be like me and wear the same shorts and t-shirt for 3 days. Nobody wants to see that. Bathe (even if that means crying in the fetal position in the shower) , put on your prettiest makeup, fix your hair, and wear your cutest clothes. Be hot, because you are hot.

3) Make a list of all of the things you disliked about your ex and your relationship..."He liked to knit...he liked to knit?!??...is that normal?" "His fingernails were dirty?..why were they like that?...ew."

4) Get excited about flirting, meeting some super hot men (the mature, won't play iphone virtual aquarium while on a lunch date with you type) and having the possibility of meeting someone better for you. Put on some bad betch dance music (yonce is a personal fave) and get ready to be a hot commodity if you are willing to put yourself out there.

5) DO NOT ( and i mean it even though I did it *cough* still do it *cough*) creep on your ex on social media. They aren't as amazing as you, and they never will be and it will not change 60 seconds after you last checked. Why should you care if he's at the beach with that weird girl who used to stalk him when you were dating?... if he wants that, let him go ahead and remember how much better you were.

6) Get a cool new hobby or distract yourself. I've decided to repaint and redecorate my bedroom. ( yes, I did spend 3 weeks binge watching bravo tv in said room before I decided to repaint). It is exciting and fulfilling to do something new. Who knows, maybe you will find some super cool hidden talent.

7) Keep on keeping on! Stay positive! You have the rest of your life ahead of you! You will be happy again and you will find someone new one day. He may be walking around outside right now. You will never know if you don't get out there in the world.

Love to all the bad betches ,

Erinn (who still loves to eat chicken mcnuggets. No man tarnishes my love for them. No man!)

Let me know what you ladies think!

until next time... xoxo J

the new flashback friday...

Starting with tomorrow I want to start posting a positive flashback. Tomorrow is the first one and I'm flashing back to when I took a selfie with the Eiffel Tower in Paris while I was abroad. After this one, I want to post a positive flashback from one of my followers lives to hi-light them. So please email me at franklymydearlive@gmail.com! Send me any questions you have about this, if you wish to stay anonymous or not and send me your story as well as pictures to go along with it! XOXOXO

until next time... XOXOX J

Be silly, be fun, enjoy life even when it gives you lemons...

the little things

Sometimes the best things in life, are the little things. Now, don't get me wrong, I love when some of the big things happen like getting a job, going on a trip, getting into college, and so many more. Unfortunately, the big things don't come around often enough for us to just sit around and wait for them. On a day to day basis, its the little things that get us smiling and through the day, after all sometimes those little things in life, add up too the big things.